Sex!

Lets start this blog out with a bang! Pun fully Intended ;)

Sex and the politics of sex are much in the news these days. Everyone wants to be in the old limerick, deciding who should do what to whom. I was warped early on on my own mores due to all the books I read, with Heinlein being a huge influence with Stranger in a Strange Land and his Lazarus series. I've always been of the opinion that people should do what they want within the umbrella of personal responsibility and the caveat of do no harm to others.

On Sodomy
It surprises and dismays me that there are still laws on the books against what people do literally twenty-four hours a day in this country(overall of course, not one tireless couple.) What's worse is that politicians are still advocating new repressive laws from time to time. Anything outside marital missionary copulation has busybodies trying to regulate other peoples private lives. How does it affect me or you where someone puts their genitalia with their significant other in the privacy of their own home? I can't see anything wrong with consenting adults getting their jollies off with 3 watermelons and some ball bearings if it doesn't affect anyone adversely.

On Homosexuality
Here's the big hot button of the day, especially in CA with proposition 8(known as prop H8 by the dissenting crowd). To quote Wil Wheaton, “Proposition 8 and the people who support it disgust me. Want to know why? Replace every instance of "same-sex marriage" with "interracial marriage" and see how bigoted and discriminatory it is.“ I really cannot think of anything significant to add to that. What does it matter that two people who love each other and engage in sex happen to be equipped the same? Makes no difference to me, I'm still not affected in any way and they're still not hurting anyone. Hell, from what I understand, homosexual marriage would actually boost our economy, what with increasing rentals and cake buying and such by a significant percentage. Being upset about homosexuality is no different than being upset over interracial couples or marrying outside your class.

On Responsibility
See, what all this boils down to is self responsibility, and your responsibility to others. As a society, we are, I believe, required to do no harm to others and they to us. What that means is I shouldn't take a shotgun to your face, and you'll refrain from swinging that machete at my arm. What it also means is I shall not interfere with your person, as I have no right to do so, until you bring your person unto me. You go fly solo, duo, trio or more in your room with as many partners and toys and toppings as you will, so long as you're being responsible to yourself, and to your partners, and refraining from hurting others, then I have nothing to say.

This also means that others have a responsibility to be sane when accidents happen. I recall a news article from several years back on a couple being charged for indecent exposure to a minor or some such concoction, because a child looked in a bathroom window at a mirror reflecting a mirror reflecting the couple during their relations. Not exactly public sex on a park bench. Of course some helicopter parent whipped up a storm of indignant fury that this couple dared to expose their precious snowflake to such things, never asking why snowflake was looking into other peoples windows. I hope you draw from this that just because you see something, doesn't mean you need to, or even should, act upon it. Maybe a mention of reflection and curtains in this case would have been acceptable. Public displays of affection? Keep on walking. Two girls kissing? I'm walking. Guys making out in a club? Still walking. Second base at the public pool? Yeah, cool it down, not appropriate.

What doesn't hurt you and doesn't hurt me doesn't need to be regulated. Also, it's none of your damned business, so stop voting about it.

“The ethics of sex is a thorny problem. Each of us is forced to grope for a solution he can live with — in the face of a preposterous, unworkable, and evil code of so-called "morals." Most of us know the code is wrong; almost everybody breaks it. But we pay Danegeld by feeling guilty and giving lip service. Willy-nilly, the code rides us, dead and stinking, an albatross around the neck. “
-Stranger in a Strange Land